Promises

When you take a promise, you are bound to keep that commitment. People make promises all the time from the small insignificant thing, but then they tend to forget about it.

Promises, whether you fulfill it or not, will indicate how we value people to whom we make promises and at the same time indicate how we value ourselves (our own words). Simply speaking, keeping our promises closely related to our integrity.

I limit myself to 'making promises' thingy. For example, I never said that I will write this blog often, because then if I do not do it often, people will question my integrity. Can I trust this person again when he or she says something, while he or she make a promise one time and do not fulfill it? Rather than do that, I just said it to myself (verbally to myself) that I will keep writing on my blog since it develops my skills and reduce my stress.

My boyfriend never makes a promise, that he will marry me in some specific years. And so do I. I never make such promises as well. Promise raise expectation and put our integrity and commitment on the betting table. Why on earth smart people will ever do that to themselves? I love him and respect him and so do him to me, but we are just ordinary people, we are still learning to keep that commitment and hoping that one day we will brave enough to say it verbally and in writing that we take that commitment forever to take a knot. There are smart and important reasons why we do not married yet. 

My point is, some people make a lot of promises, for small insignificant matter until big serious things. They just say it, in order to convince people to believe them. They do not think about it thoroughly. Some people do not realize that build your integrity is much more important than making some problem instantly disappear temporarily. Keeping your own words is one way to show that you respect yourself and other people.

So, stop making promises if you do not really mean it. Stop making promises just to convince people or to make the problem disappear today. Stop making promises you know that you cannot or will not fulfill it. Be a better person and bigger person, even though people will not see it directly, do it because you respect yourselves.